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Last weekend, since I had nothing much to do after some grocery shopping, I decided to pay my best friend a surprise visit.
You might be thinking, who comes to someone’s place unannounced? Well, my bestie and I do that to each other all the time. I guess it’s included in the perks of being friends for 30 years.
When I got there, it wasn’t good timing as usual. She was busy doing some general house cleaning, so I ended up helping her.
While I was wiping the kitchen cabinets, I couldn’t help but notice how she was cleaning her stove. She was scrubbing it really hard and she was obviously bothered.
When I asked if she was okay, she told me how her stove easily gets dirty and then she said, “You spatter grease on them when you cook. You spill everything from sauces to cooking oil on them. And no matter how hard I try to scrub and fight the grime to make it look clean, it’s never enough.” Then she started crying.
I knew this was not about the stove.
She told me how frustrating it is that she can’t find a job for her partner and how he is always hanging out with his friends while she tries to make both ends meet.
We all have our issues. There is no such thing as a perfect life.
While we are born with certain abilities, it can really get tough sometimes. In the piece “Why Trying to Solve Your Partner’s Problems Will Ruin Your Relationship,” Kyle Benson explains how relationships rely on two pillars.
Both pillars are responsible in providing balance and foundation for the relationship. If the other person is not doing his/her part, the support becomes weak causing the relationship to crumble down.
Ladies, romantic sacrifices have boundaries.
We don’t have to let ourselves be treated like crap just to be loved in return. We have to realize that we can’t be everything to someone.
What do you think will eventually happen if my friend continues to allow her partner to take her for granted?
When there’s not enough effort on both ends, or any at all, to solve the problem then intimacy will eventually die.
When you try to become everything to your partner, he will become dependent on you. Both of you will not grow and your relationship will be in constant turmoil.
As a friend, I can only do so much. I told her everything that she needed to hear and the decision is all up to her.
While I was driving home, I couldn’t help but think that no one’s life is perfect and that everyone is dealing with their own problems. Just about a month ago, I was so confused with my own life. I wasn’t sure if leaving my job to pursue my passion of writing full time would work for me. But I still took the risk.
In “Why It’s Totally Fine If You’re Confused About Which Career Path to Take,” writer Rachael Thatcher positively highlights “jumping between interests.”
For many women, jumping from one career to another is viewed as immature behavior. However, what they fail to realize is that saying goodbye to one passion to explore a new one can actually be a great advantage.
You see ladies, reality is what we create in our minds. If we choose to see the positive in every situation, it will manifest in our life as truth.
So, what if we are far from being perfect? What really matters is having a positive mental and emotional attitude towards life.
Imperfection is just simply doing the best in everything we do.
Speaking of imperfections, can you think of anyone who doesn’t have some issue with their own body? We should all know by now that loving oneself is a lifelong journey for all of us women. And part of that journey is to shape ourselves and eat healthy.
So, you better check out these 7 new health apps that will actually make your life better. More than just tracking your daily steps, these apps can help you stay on top of every aspect of your health, from birth control, to skin regimen, to mental therapy and to tuning up your daily zen.
Beauty seems unfinished when it’s not painted.
So after doing all those body regimens, you should check this out too, “How to Coordinate Nail Art With Your Makeup.” These four nail and eye designs are perfect matches made from the heaven of fashions.
So ladies, let’s not miss the whole point, shall we?
Life may not be perfect most of the time and things don’t always make sense, but hey – that’s where the real beauty of our existence lies. Fortunately, that gives us the reasons we need to grow and make things better, and most of all to appreciate the good things that life itself has to offer.
I have a friend who used to be like your best friend. She used to do everything for her husband until one day when she got so sick of it that she decided to take some time away from him. It was only then that he realized how much he relied on her. Being taken for granted is not fun at all.
I have walked away from numerous relationships because I’d gotten fed up with being the only one holding things together. Everyone has a breaking point when it comes to being taken for granted.
We are all perfectly imperfect, and embracing the fact that we can be happy even when things aren’t perfect can totally change where we are in this life. I can drive myself crazy lamenting about how nothing is perfect, or I can be happy and enjoy my life now as it is. imperfections and all. The choice is mine.
We all have to have the feeling of self worth. When this young woman ended up being the bread winner of the family while her significant other played all day then she had to begin to doubt herself. I do believe that self esteem/worth is harder for women than men. I hope she kicked the bum out and moved on with her life.
I know the feeling of making a career change. There were people in my life that looked at me as though I was crazy for following my dreams. I think in a way it’s jealousy because they never had the courage to follow their passion.
Reality is what we make it…….how true that is. Positive vibes and love are good things to put out, but when you’re with someone who doesn’t reciprocate, you just have to love them from a distance.
Amen to that! Relationships have to be two sided. You can’t be the only one to give and keep giving. I have walked away from a couple of similar relationships. I’m quite happy now.
I know people like this too. The man does nothing and the wife does everything. I wish all relationships were 50/50. I think too often we take people for granted and then it’s too late.