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Have you ever felt that everything in your life seems to be out of your control and that you are just merely living your life on auto-pilot, going wherever the wind takes you?
There was a point in my life when I had a good job, I was earning a fair income to sustain my needs and my life’s little pleasures and though I was single, I was surrounded by supportive and loyal friends. However, there was something inside me that was feeling empty or missing. And although I wasn’t unhappy, I somehow felt stuck, demotivated, and unfulfilled.
At first, I thought it was an issue of discontentment; perhaps I was too blind to see and appreciate all the good things around me. But when I tried to dig deeper and question my own feelings, I began to realize the things that were lacking in my life – meaning and purpose.
My existence just revolved around work, home, and a little bit of socializing with friends, nothing more. The choices that I used to make were mostly based on other people’s opinions and were insignificant to my personal growth.
So, as soon as I figured these things out, I started to make the necessary changes to take back control of my life and focus my energy on what’s truly important.
Ladies, here are fool-proof ways to grow your inner personal power and to live life to the best of your abilities.
Be a Class Act
Being classy doesn’t mean owning expensive things and being surrounded by the rich and famous. It is about cultivating respect for everyone, including yourself and how you carry yourself during any given situation.
To become a woman of high class, you should be able to handle all life circumstances with the gentleness of a butterfly and the fierceness of a tigress, or in other words, with grace and confidence.
In romantic relationships, for instance, there are several troubling red-flags behaviors that indicate absence of class such as: calling your partner frequently to make sure that he is where he said he would be, allowing your entire world to revolve on your partner alone, becoming ridiculously jealous to the point of punching another woman in the face for flirting with your boyfriend and so much more.
If you want to be a class act, you should try to minimize and never justify these “mate-guarding behaviors.” Instead, show your commitment to your relationship by cultivating trust, respect for your partner and for yourself and by having zero tolerance to any form of abuse.
Make Your Health a Top Priority
One of the worst mistakes you can ever have in this lifetime is not making your health your top priority. By not taking significant efforts to care about yourself and to live a healthy lifestyle, you are not only sabotaging your well-being but your dreams as well.
Writer Joshua Steimle explains why he chooses exercising as a higher priority than his career.
Here are some of the highlights from his piece:
• It makes you more productive
• It helps you get control of your life
• It boosts confidence and self-esteem
Build Genuine & Lasting Friendships
Creating meaningful relationships is what makes life worthwhile. Real friends uplift your spirits when you’re feeling down, take time to listen to your problems, craziness, and sometimes, nonsense just to make your burdens a little lighter and bearable. They also turn into your personal support system especially in times of emergencies.
Cultivating genuine and lasting relationships takes time and effort. It’s not always about what they can do for you but also what you can do for them. You should be able to stand by your friends through the good times and the bad.
To upgrade your social circle and build real heartfelt connections with people, writer Sarah Seung-McFarland shares these 4 helpful tips.
I personally love #1: Deal with loneliness before aloneness. Taking responsibility of your own issues first makes the friendship more genuine instead of using people to resolve your insecurities and to fill in your emptiness.
Choose to Reframe Your Thoughts & Challenges Positively
You may not have the power to undo the past, correct your previous mistakes and prevent your failures from happening, but you always have the choice to change the way you view the things that are happening in your life.
To help you not get caught up or fixated on your problems, check this out – “How to Keep Your Mind Uncontaminated in a Negative World.”
Writer Matt Duczeminski provides ways on how to improve your outlook on life by accepting the inevitable, being more appreciative, focusing on productivity and doing the best you can every single day.
Ladies, remember than no one is better qualified to create positive changes in your life than you are. If you put too much emphasis on the things that you don’t have, your failures, and your mistakes, you will lose your chance of having a purposeful and happier life. So, you better start making conscious efforts to enjoy your journey by applying these positive practices as soon as possible.
I couldn’t agree more that having lasting, lifelong friendships can really help to shape a positive attitude. Having a support system of women that you love and trust is crucial for the bad times and it also helps to elevate the good times to something even better. I have been blessed with a group of women I have known for 25 plus years and I wouldn’t trade them for anything in the world.
Making your health a top priority is the best tip I have seen in a long time. When you are healthy you feel great. When you are not healthy, you’re sluggish.
I have been friends with 6 women since 2nd grade. We do things together still at least once a month. I love our long lasting friendship. We build each other up and are always there for each other.
I have this saying, “You’re speaking to a lady,” whenever guys are cussing around me. Sure, they give me a funny look but I can tell you this, after that I am treated with respect. Being a class act has changed how I deal with relationships and how others deal with me.
I completely agree with you with regards to health. We tend to work so hard and we almost always sacrifice our own health for the job. This is such a wrong approach and yet everyone is doing the same thing, including me.
You are the only person in the world that can decide your future. We can’t change the past but we can change our future. Every second is a new chance for us to decide whether we want to live our life positively or not.
It’s all about timing. I can match the way I talk to the boys with their style, so I can join the conversation easier. Other times, I draw the line like you do. We can adapt to the situation and keep our dignity at the same time.
For a long time, I was living my life in auto-pilot mode. I did not feel like I was in control of anything and my nights were always filled with a lot of soul-searching. What was the purpose of my existence? Is there anything I could do to change things? It did not take long before I was able to figure out how to change all aspects of my life. It wasn’t a smooth sail but every moment after that has been worth it.