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My friend Elaine and I used to hang out a lot until she transferred to a different company and I moved out of the city to concentrate on my new career. After that, we really never had the chance to fully update each other about our lives except for a few short exchanges on WhatsApp.
Nothing can beat a good chat over coffee.
It was only the other day that we finally found the time to meet for lunch and have the much awaited conversation of the century over our favorite Mocha latte – decaf, nonfat, less-whip! It feels good to know that some things never change.
We started talking about everything, from former office-mates, to stalker exes, to family. However, as the conversation deepened, I sensed an air of confusion and emptiness in her.
Elaine is 35, single and working as an HR Manager; basically she represents independent Millennials with no big obligations in life. Yet she told me how she’s feeling like a lost soul, with no sense of purpose and direction.
Feeling lost is a sign of maturity and growth. It means we are conscious and we are connected to the world.
I was once like her. I felt like I was wasting my life and I was always questioning myself about my personal mission in this world. But eventually, I found my peace and I know she will, too.
How?
By letting your unhappiness and dissatisfaction lead you to find your purpose and the meaning that you are looking for.
Somehow, I think it all boils down to loving oneself. When we don’t like who we are and we keep on suppressing our passion, then we can never be truly be happy.
In “Why You Shouldn’t Change Yourself, You Should Change the Person You’re With,” Jessica Wendroff explains how men get intimidated by empowered women.
The media is guilty of portraying women as damsels in distress, weak and submissive. That’s why when men are finally confronted with women who are capable of thinking on their own, they tend to run.
“One of the biggest mistakes you can make as a woman is removing jewels from your crown to make it easier for a man to carry. You do not need a smaller crown. You need a man with bigger hands.”
Sacrificing your own happiness and your dreams for someone who doesn’t truly deserve you will get you nowhere. Keeping your ambition and goals in mind are important especially when you’re undergoing one of the biggest transition moments of your life.
Grace Bluerock knows exactly what you need to do in your career while you’re in the process of transformation. In her piece “7 Tips to Build a Business While Working On a Day Job,” she mentions the importance of committing yourself to your dream.
I remember the time I found my peace, everything became clear to me. I knew exactly what I wanted to do, so I wrote down my goals and kept myself focused on it every day. But I noticed that after some time, I still hadn’t accomplished half of the things on my list yet. Why?
Our desires only tell us what we want, our commitment, however, determines how dedicated we are, how far we can go and what we can do to get there.
That’s why it’s vital that you remember to take care of your health as much as you take care of everything else. Without it, you leave yourself susceptible to all sorts of things that interfere with your dreams.
You need to give your mind and body the rest that they need to induce cellular regeneration and internal cleansing.
That’s why, I think that you should be aware of this latest cleanse craze that promotes a diet with less sugar. It’s basically a soup-only diet that detoxifies your body naturally while reducing inflammation and increasing circulation.
Writer Sarah Kaye Santos gives you 3 options depending on your health needs: 24-hour reset, 3-day boost cleanse and 5-day soup cleanse. It also includes a bonus recipe on how to make Purple Cauliflower Soup. I can’t wait to try it myself!
What’s happening on our skin matters, too.
Cleansing, toning and moisturizing should always be a part of our daily facial skincare regime. While I was browsing through Elle Magazine, I came across this unique product to get rid of the bad bacteria on our face; yogurt!
Aside from keeping the natural balance in our digestive and immune systems, it has also been proven effective to boost our skin’s natural defenses. Perhaps on your next trip to the grocery store you should double the number of yogurts you pick up.
Finding yourself, whether you are wandering more than adventuring, and figuring out what you want out of life may seem really challenging. But the moment you admit to yourself that you are lost; your journey to self-exploration begins. It could be a wild ride, but perhaps all you need is a friend and a cup of coffee.
I’m really interested in the soup cleanse, but the author of the book says a Vitamix blender is the only thing you can use to get the right consistency. I’m not about to invest that much in a blender right now, so I may look around for other soup cleanse ideas. Thanks for the idea, though!
The article about changing the person you’re with made some good points about respect and equality, but I think the author was slightly off the mark in her use of the quote. For one thing, a women doesn’t “need” a man. For another, why would a man be carrying your crown? It’s yours!
This article really makes a lot of sense to me. It shows us that we can overcome our obstacles and be whatever we want to be. I’ve seen friends in the past struggle with having their man be in control of everything in their lives and they became very unhappy because of it. I’ve always made sure that this has never happened to me.
Being lost is part of the journey of life. It only makes you stronger and allows you to take a step back and ask yourself about what you really want in life. This is an excellent article.
I loved the suggestion of using yogurt on your face! Yeast can wreak havoc inside our bodies, but it can also cause problems on the outside of our bodies! Yogurt is a great way to combat yeast and promote healthy flora both inside and out! What a great mention!
Ah yes, coffee. The nectar of the Gods. Aside from sex, coffee is the best addiction I have ever acquired. It gets your brain working very quickly and the caffeine effects shut themselves off after 3 cups and have no effect on me after that. It forces moderation…….at least for me.
Feeling lost as a sign that you’re on the path to maturity……..that’s a hard one to understand. It kind of makes sense though. When you’re at a crossroad and don’t now which way to turn, you feel lost for a little bit.
How long you remain lost is the key. Feeling lost is not new to me. At every turn I have been able to make changes that have benefited my career. Finding a man with those big hand is challenging though. It generally turns into a competition. Who can best the other. When you are able to find one that embraces your ability, then you’ve got something there.
I think we have all felt lost at some point in our lives. Sometimes we search for others to help us find ourselves. I’ve made that mistake too many times. When I finally realized that I was in control of my own happiness, I no longer felt lost. I also feel that now that I am older, I am much more comfortable in my own skin and content with the type of person I have grown to be.
This reminds me of an old friend of mine that I meet up with every couple of years. We were the best of friends in school, but life came along and we have not been able to keep in touch as much as we’d like. However, when we do get to see each other, we can always pick up where we left off. She is always and inspiration to me by telling me how successful her life has been. It makes me want to do better for myself and keep working towards my goals too.