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A couple of years ago, a bad relationship decision my friend Christy made, led to an unforgettable night out.
Despite her parents’ and friends’ (including me) disapproval, she still decided to stay with her “married” boyfriend. To be fair, he is married, but not living together with his wife anymore. Christy believed that he was the one for her and that she wouldn’t be able to find another man who would be willing to put up with her craziness. In short, she was settling for less.
Unhappy with her choice, she invited me and 3 other friends to hit the club and just dance her problem away. When we got to the place, it was fully packed. But, it never stopped Christy from recognizing the man who was so busy grinding with another woman.
It was her boyfriend, having the time of his life, while she was trying to fight for him and for their relationship.
Christy created a scene at the club that night. It was kind of embarrassing but I was somehow glad that it happened because she finally learned her lesson and assured us that she would never go back to him and commit the same mistake again.
Sometimes, your happiness is between you and yourself. The things you do and the choices you make determine the quality of your life.
Here are 4 mistakes that you should never do to yourself to achieve happiness and lasting peace of mind.
Wasting Your Time on Things That Don’t Work
Ladies, life is too short to spend time with the wrong people. If someone wants you in their life, they will take care of you, treat you good and never do anything that would make you want to run for the hills.
Don’t waste your time on people who don’t see your worth. Be with the people who have seen you at your worst yet stay true to you and love you anyways through it all.
Also, never stay in a relationship for the wrong reasons. There’s no need to rush and force things. Love will happen at its own beautiful time.
According to writer Chamarra McCrorey, if you keep on seeing these 5 signs in your relationship, it means that you have to move on and start a new chapter.
• When there’s lack of trust
• When you are not a priority
• When your partner keeps on creating his own problems
• When you’re trying to change each other
• When you’re not helping each other grow
In my opinion, relationships feel great but they can be very frustrating and exhausting when you’re always dealing with the same issues all the time. When thesame problems keep on happening, then it’s important to take a pause to see things clearly and think more effectively.
Thinking That You Are Not Good Enough
One of the best things about life is that no matter how things go wrong, you can always choose to move forward and decide how you want to shape your future. So, don’t dwell on your mistakes and your failures. Try to grow up instead.
To evolve positively, you may need to do inconvenient things or go beyond your comfort zone to allow yourself to advance and develop. You have to get rid of obsolete and meaningless habits that don’t really contribute to your welfare.
And to help you secure time for the things that really matter, check this out – “Five Tips to Improve Time Management.”
More than just ordinary productivity tips, writer Kyle Bell provides ways on how you can actually evaluate your situation so that you can start making real progress.
Putting Your Own Needs on the Back Burner
It’s a good thing to be selfless or to put other’s needs before yours, but not when it reaches the point that you’re actually giving them power over your life. Girl, sometimes you have to help yourself too. You have to address your own needs too so that you’ll never lose yourself in the process of helping others.
Forgetting that you are also special and that your needs matter can be harmful to your overall well-being.
And speaking of putting your own needs first, there are certain types of food that could reduce bad bacteria in your system and help boost your mental health.
So, ladies, now is a good time to pay more attention to yourself. You can start loving yourself more by changing your diet to protect yourself from diseases and to become a better you.
Living Without A Purpose
Having purpose is your life’s driving force. It motivates you to do things, achieve and keep going in whatever direction you choose. Without it, you’ll just end up running away from everything that life throws at you. You will be lost.
To connect to your true and divine purpose, here are 6 practices that you can do every day.
The answers to the most pressing questions about the meaning of life lie within you. If you can come up with the right questions and if you can keep your heart open for the signs, your soul will recognize the reason for your existence.
Ladies, we are not created perfect for a reason. We are here to evolve and mold ourselves to become stronger. It’s never too late to shift your path to a direction that will lead you to have a broader perspective, better relationships and a more comfortable position in life.
Time management is one of my worst issues to deal with. I have ADHD and I have to be very careful with time management because people who have ADHD notoriously lack the skills to effectively manage their time. I am always looking for new ways to help me stay on track and not be late, or finish projects on time.
If you suffer from ADHD then I am not certain the suggestions that are linked in the article would be the most beneficial to you. While the overall ideas are great, I am not certain they would benefit someone who lacks executive functioning in this area. I have a son with ADHD so I completely understand the challenges you face. Telling someone with ADHD to “get organized” isn’t productive because most suffer with the ability to “get organized” in addition to time management issues. There are, however, plenty of other excellent suggestions in this article that will inspire you.
Just like how people create and change relationships, don’t relationships also change the people involved? As we go on, we realize our bad habits and we work on fixing it to keep the relationship alive. If the change is for a better self, it can’t be a warning sign.
Opening ourselves for change is an important trait. Still, we need to filter which changes are necessary. Sometimes we don’t know yet if the change is good or bad. That’s human nature: we keep changing as life takes different turns.
I used to think lowly of myself because I set my goals too high. They were too unrealistic. As I tried to break down those goals into simpler, smaller goals, I could do more than I thought with a little push. Aiming high is necessary, but being hasty is not a good idea.
This helps especially when we feel lost about the purpose in life. I was once at that stage of terrifying confusion, and listing those goals helped me to rise again. Looking back now those goals seem silly, but we should never underestimate the power of those small details.
I’m a dreamer, and my dreams are big. I used to think that thinking about the small steps are not important. I see how it made me lose sight of priorities, confidence, and joy. I feel like I can appreciate life better as I learn to work slowly but surely.
Great tips. It’s been helpful for me as well, so I definitely recommend it for everyone. If I may add, setting up a reasonable deadline gives us more motivation. Fighting a visible opponent is definitely easier than an abstract one.